What if image didn ́t exist.
What if we valued each other purely on strengths, achievements, personality
attributes and our abilities to shine out through through the crowed purely by how we act and who we are.
We all say… ́I hate how people judge based on looks, body image, weight and
beauty ́. However, we still continue to do this ourselves despite the fact we hate it.
In western culture this is something instilled in us. Not surprising when we are
bombarded with celebrity images of what equals ́perfection, beauty, success ́.
The never ending promotion of diet products, weight loss products, beauty and reinforcing in our minds the importance of this.
To feel good about ourselves physically is a great thing. But when this ranks
higher on what we are valued for by others or our biggest achievement we credit
our self with, then surely this is clouding our true beauty and achievements as a person.
If image didn ́t exist, it is a fact that people would be judged differently. The most
intelligent, caring, funny, and truly inspiring people would be the most beautiful and praised by people.
More and more people would tune in on the achievements, personality traits and real thoughts and actions of that person would be noticeable.
People would not be pre-judged for their appearance and would be taken as equal until their true personality has created that first impression.
We would invest more time in getting to know people to see who we are
compatible with as friends, lovers and who add value to our life.
There would not be feelings associated with the pressure to look a certain way,
feeling in-superior to others due to weight, image, fashion or any other factors.
We may be born beautiful psychically, we may not. We may be tall, small,
overweight, skinny, blonde or brunette. Although each of these physical attributes
can be manipulated to some degree, we are all born as we are and that is something we have no control of.
Our personality, achievements and what we strive for in life are 100% in our
control. So why are we complimented, judged and seen being more successful
depending on how we look with these other things added as good additional achievements.
In other countries I have come to realize that although image is important to some
degree as with every country in the world, some countries zone in on this far above the others and it is only when taking myself out of this culture that I have come to realize this.
Life is short. Achievements give such endorphin’s and when these are noticed by
others this encourages you to keep on going. Keep reaching your goals, keep
becoming a better person, keep being the best version of you you can be.
When you stop receiving compliments about your image and start noticing the
only compliments you receive are based on achievements, your personality and
other things you work hard to shine at, you then realize how much louder these
compliments shout to you and encourage you to continue doing great things.
I think its time we all started complimenting others more on their achievements,
and how they cope, act, respond and succeed in life. Seeing them as people and
not physical beings holding a higher rank the more attractive they are in appearance.
Because someone was at a higher weight at some point in their life, does not
make them any less successful. Some people have their own weight goals and if
that is important in their life then that is fine. But do not judge anyone based on this and assume that they are un happy like this.
I am now gaining weight and each small bit of weight I gain, the happier, funnier, more positive, determined and am becoming.
The more weight I am gaining, the more I am caring about my friends and family, achieving other goals and challenges and progressing in my life.
Do something different and don ́t let the automatic first compliment of ́wow, you
look nice, slim, beautiful etc ́ be the first and only compliment you pay someone.
This is over used and it often makes a person feel much better and provides more
motivation and encouragement when you compliment someone based on what they have actually put effort in to creating, being or achieving.
A comment on how I looked used to mean a lot to me. Now its like words in and
out of my ears and makes me think ́but what about all that I have done and achieved lately?? .
Compliment people on this, notice what they have done, who they are as a person
if looks weren ́t visible and start giving compliments on these basis to encourage
that person and make them genuinely smile and feel proud of themselves.